It is probably just me, which is why I'm asking the question. Information Expert, Tell Don't Ask, and SRP are often mentioned together as best practices. But I think they are at odds. Here is what I'm talking about:

Code that favors SRP but violates Tell Don't Ask, Info Expert:

Customer bob = ...;
// TransferObjectFactory has to use Customer's accessors to do its work, 
// violates Tell Don't Ask
CustomerDTO dto = TransferObjectFactory.createFrom(bob);

Code that favors Tell Don't Ask / Info Expert but violates SRP:

Customer bob = ...;
// Now Customer is doing more than just representing the domain concept of Customer,
// violates SRP
CustomerDTO dto = bob.toDTO();

If they are indeed at odds, that's a vindication of my OCD. Otherwise, please fill me in on how these practices can co-exist peacefully. Thank you.

Edit: someone wants a definition of the terms -

Information Expert: objects that have the data needed for the operation should host the operation

Tell Don't Ask: don't ask objects for data in order to do work; tell the objects to do the work

Single Responsibility Principle: each object should have a narrowly defined responsibility